faq
where are you located?
i live and work in seattle, washington. i can easily travel anywhere in the pacific northwest. i am also willing and able to travel to see you or with you given ample notice and appropriate accommodations.
why don't you have an incall?
currently, my home is my sacred space for myself and my loved ones. i am in the process of finding a cozy and safe space for a rendezvous, but until then, i will be utilizing hotels in the area for our dalliances.
do you travel?
i love to travel. if you'd like to fly me to you or bring me on a holiday, i am open to that conversation. generally, i will require:
a 6-hour minimum appointment
a 50% deposit
business class or higher airfare, accommodations, and ground transportation expenses covered separately from our appointment
i will provide a formal quote upon request.
are you a morning person?
hah, nope. i come alive at night. i can feel it like a physical weight lifting. the sun dips and i take a deep breath and feel more alive.
my optimal hours are 11am–2am. that said, i will wake up early (before 11am) to meet you with proper notice. i just need proper beauty rest. i want to be bright-eyed and bushy-tailed for you, so please book early mornings at least 72 hours in advance.
what types of clients do you see?
all kinds. i do not discriminate based on experience level, gender, sexual identity, race, or physical ability. if you have any concerns, please reach out and let me know. i'm happy to answer any questions you may have.
do you see couples?
yup :)
is it okay if this is my first time?
omg, yes. i would love to take your hand and guide you through this. any and all first times are welcome. and if you're nervous about anything, please let me know. i want you to feel comfortable and safe; it's my main goal.
if you would like, you can schedule a phone call or a coffee date for us to get to know each other a little better in a low-pressure environment.
why should i hire you?
hmm
generally, i hope i'm being hired for more reasons than just "i like her face." i hope you're interested because i love to learn. i love to learn about nerdy things, but i also love to learn about my city, or other cities. i love to learn about people, and i'm excited to learn about you.
i make friends everywhere i go: the cashier, the person next to me at the bar, friends of friends. i am known for my ability to make others feel comfortable. people find it easy to open up to me, to share their experiences with me. i love this. i love being able to hold a safe space for those around me.
i am highly learned in the area of love. as someone with multiple partners of multiple genders, i am well-studied in the art of helping someone come apart. it's my favorite pastime.
also, i hope you find me trustworthy. i work hard to earn your trust. please see my answer to the question: how can i trust you?
are you kinky or open to fetish work?
yes. i am kinky. bottom/sub-leaning. i have experience in kink spaces and with kink dynamics.
that being said, i am not your pro-domme. if that is your area of interest, i am more than happy to refer you to some friends of mine.
i am kink- and fetish-friendly and would love to hear what you're interested in so that we can negotiate something that is fun and safe for both of us.
what should we do?
you may reference my date ideas page for inspiration, or you are always welcome to set up a 20-minute consultation to make plans with me.
expectations
i expect you to:
be on time
be clean, well-groomed, and dressed
treat me with kindness and respect
follow my rules for my own safety and yours
food
good food will keep the good times going! any appointment greater than two hours must include a meal.
i have no dietary restrictions, but i do need regular food to maintain my energy. having snacks available during longer appointments is appreciated.
are you 420 friendly?
i don't partake, but i don't mind if you do, as long as i'm informed and there's adequate ventilation so that i don't get too cross-faded.
how do i know i can trust you?
i think about trust a lot—in my personal life and in my professional life. for me, trust falls under the umbrella of safety, and providing safety is one of my primary goals in life.
physical safety. emotional safety. mental safety. digital safety.
how can i show you that i'm worthy of your trust?
well, it starts with my website. i opted out of using a traditional form for your intake information because that data would be stored on a server for some amount of time, and i cannot guarantee your digital safety.
i use proton mail for my communications because it provides strong encryption and zero-access encryption for stored messages. messages between Proton users are end-to-end encrypted, while messages to other email providers are not automatically end-to-end encrypted. for especially sensitive information, Proton also offers password-protected emails.
i've also disabled notifications for Proton Mail and other private communications on my devices so sensitive information isn't displayed in notification previews.
i hope you see from this that before we've even met, i'm working diligently to make sure you and i are safe. i want us to be able to fully relax in each other's company, and for me, this is the first step toward making that possible.
what's the deal with the email system?
i opted out of using a traditional form for your intake information because that data would be stored on a server for some amount of time, and i cannot guarantee your digital safety.
i use proton mail for my communications because it provides strong encryption and zero-access encryption for stored messages. messages between Proton users are end-to-end encrypted, while messages to other email providers are not automatically end-to-end encrypted.
i took these measures to protect your privacy and security as well as mine.
screening process
please choose one of the following methods. regardless of which you choose, please also send me a photo of yourself. any old photo will do: one you like, the most recent one you took, your choice.
id — a photo of your government-issued ID. i only need your name, photo, and date of birth; you may redact the rest if you wish.
work verification — your active public linkedin profile or another established public profile with identifiable employment/history and a visible photo.
provider references — the name, email, and website, ad, or social media profile of two providers you've seen recently.
privatedelights — if you have an account with responses from more than two providers, you may send me your page.
what kind of payment do you take?
deposits:
after completing the screening, a deposit of 25% will be required for any local dates.
long distance dates will be a 50% deposit.
i will provide details on how to submit a deposit when the time comes.
at the appointment:
payments for services will be made at the beginning of our appointment via cash. if we are meeting in a hotel, i will have a small alter made for you to leave your payment and i will receive it while you prepare you body.
if wer are meeting in a public space, please put your payment in a birthday card (or similar) or a small book, maybe something you’d like me to read, or a collection of poetry.
how do i secure a date?
a 25% deposit is required to secure your appointment.
your deposit is applied toward the total cost of our time together, with the remaining balance due at the beginning of our appointment.
for overnight or multi-day bookings, a 50% deposit is required due to the additional time being reserved.
appointments are not considered confirmed until the deposit has been received.
what happens if i need to cancel?
shit happens. if you cancel 3 or more days before our scheduled date, your deposit may either be refunded or transferred to a new date.
cancellations made less than 3 days before our scheduled date will forfeit the deposit.
same-day cancellations and no-shows will forfeit the deposit and may affect your ability to book with me in the future.
what about rescheduling?
absolutely.
with at least 3 days' notice, your deposit can be transferred to one new date, subject to my availability.
rescheduling with less than 3 days' notice may be treated as a cancellation.
what about travel expenses?
for travel bookings, transportation, accommodations, and other agreed-upon travel expenses are handled separately from my booking fee.
once travel arrangements have been purchased, those expenses may be non-refundable depending on the provider's cancellation policy.
i will always discuss travel arrangements and costs with you before anything is booked.
same-day appointments
i adore a spontaneous rendezvous, and yet, i do prepare for our appointments. so as a consideration to me and my schedule, same-day appointments will require a $600 addition to any appointment.
